It’s been a week since you ended things with me. But, in the week after, I’ve been looking at it not as an end, but as a beginning of something new in my life. I’m thankful that you had the courage to end things with us and not wait until things got ugly. I’m thankful for your honesty and your courage. This past week, I’ve been looking at my life and re-evaluating how I view things and I wouldn’t have seen these things if it hadn’t been for you. I want you to know that I’m happy that you have decided to settle down with Kim. I won’t lie that I didn’t hurt when you told me, but your life is YOUR life! It’s out of my hands. I have no right to own you or dictate what you should do, who you should love. It’s good that you HAVE FOUND someone that you will love for the rest of your life. And if you choose to get married, then good for you. But this is what I have to say to you Jon: be sure on what you are doing. I’m not saying this because I’m bitter. I’m saying this because I’m concerned. I’ve told you this even before we became a couple and I’ll tell you this again, DO NOT LET YOUR EMOTIONS GET THE BEST OF YOU! Because the way I see it, what if your emotions reach an all time high, and then suddenly come crashing down? Will you take back all the words you have said? All the promises you have made? Playing around with your and other people’s emotions is not right. Base your actions on what is right, on what is good for the person, think about the other person’s well being before yours. Kim loves you and will die for your love. Don’t take advantage of that fact. If you truly love her, then do what is right. I was not surprised when I read that you’re getting married, I mean in the four years that you’ve been together, what more can you learn about a person? And having a relationship with someone for four years, I would like to think that it will lead to marriage. Jon, marriage is not something that should be taken lightly. Really think about it. Just because you have discovered brand new feelings for her, that you feel you have finally come home to the one you will spend the rest of your life with, don’t let that be the sole basis of your decision. Think about the things you will give up, and also the responsibilities you will gain. Take things slowly. Think things over. Consult your parents and her parents.

This is something I regret not doing with you. I’ve told you this before. I regret that I took what we had and made it into a romantic relationship, when all it should have been was a friendship that could have helped you in resolving things with her. I’m sorry that I made you invest emotions that you should have been feeling for her. I want to make things right with you. I was not the best example of how a person who is walking with the Lord should act. I’m sorry if I have taken something from you that is not rightfully mine. I feel that I have robbed your future wife of something that is hers. I want to say sorry to Kim, that I was the reason for her sorrow. If she is the one the God wants for you, then all I can be for the two of you is happy. If she is the one destined for you, then it is God’s will and no one else’s. And there is no arguing with what God wants, just like what he has done to me. He has taught me a lesson that I will take to heart.

I want to wish you the best in life, that you finally get what is due you. They say that you should forgive and forget. But you can never forget, only learn from what life has taught you. You can never forget, only forgive with all your heart, look back and say “I forgive you”. And that’s what I have done.